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Community Standards

Effective date: June 10, 2026 Last updated: June 10, 2026

What this is

These are the rules of the road for everyone using The Date Post. They exist to make the platform a place where adults can meet for one real-world date without being scammed, harassed, or treated like a product. We try to keep them short, plain, and consistently enforced.

If you violate them, you'll get a strike, an account freeze, or a ban, depending on what happened. Patterns of behaviour matter as much as any single incident. Repeat offenders don't get to come back under a new name; bans are permanent, and if you verified, the same government ID can't be used to verify again.

If you think we got an enforcement decision wrong, contact support@thedatepost.com with the relevant details. A senior moderator reviews appeals.

1. Safety baseline

1.1 ID verification is optional

Verification is optional — you can list, ask, and browse whether or not you verify — and we encourage it as the strongest signal you can give the people you might meet. We run it through Stripe Identity: Stripe checks a government photo ID against a live selfie, and on success your profile gets a verified ✓ badge. Your ID is handled by Stripe and is never shown to other users. There's a one-time $1.50 fee that covers Stripe's per-check cost — we keep none of it.

1.2 Meet in public

The Date Post doesn't pick or book your venue — once a date is confirmed, the two of you arrange where to meet. We strongly recommend a public place — a café, bar, restaurant, or park — and never going to or inviting someone to a private address for a first meeting.

1.3 Block & report

Reporting is one tap, no confirmation needed — reports go to a queue we review during platform-hours. A one-tap block is live: blocking someone is total — they no longer see you or reach you anywhere on the platform.

1.4 Banned IDs cannot return

A ban is permanent for that ID, not just for that account. If you're banned and you try to re-verify with the same government ID, you'll be flagged at verification.

1.5 18+ only

The Date Post is for adults. If we determine — at verification, by report, or via any other signal — that an account holder is under 18, the account is removed.

1.6 One person, one account

You can only hold one verified account at a time. If we detect duplicate accounts tied to the same person, we keep the older one and remove the newer one. Persistent attempts to maintain multiple accounts result in a permanent ban.

2. Honesty

2.1 No catfishing, no impersonation

Your photos must be real, recent photos of you. Filtering, lighting, or reasonable cropping is fine; anything that materially changes how you appear in person is not.

You can't pose as someone else, real or fictional. Reported impersonation results in a permanent ban.

2.2 Be honest about your relationship status

The Date Post doesn't gatekeep relationship status. Single, partnered, open, polyamorous, separated, married with arrangements — all welcome. What we do require is honest disclosure. If you're in any arrangement that's relevant to the person you're meeting, say so in your bio.

What's not allowed: misrepresenting your relationship status to deceive someone. Hidden affairs, implying single while not single, listing while a partner has explicitly said you can't see others — these aren't lifestyle judgements, they're consent failures. Confirmed deception results in a strike. Patterns or coordinated deception result in a ban.

2.3 First name only

Bios and listings show only your first name. Surnames, professional handles, and "easy to find on Instagram" patterns aren't shown. We deliberately keep identity friction-rich — if you want to tell someone your last name on a date, that's your call to make in person.

3. No sex work, no solicitation, no compensated arrangements

The Date Post is not for sex work, escort services, sugar arrangements, or compensated relationships of any kind. Not in your bio. Not in your listing. Not negotiated post-date. Not anywhere on the platform.

This rule applies to the category, not just to the language. Whether you state it directly, hint at it with euphemisms ("generous," "roses," "outcalls"), or pursue it through the platform without ever putting it in writing — it's the same outcome: a permanent ban.

We enforce this three ways: - Pre-publish bio screening. Bios are screened before going live for compensation language, contact info, and private-location invites. - Active reports. Confirmed solicitation reports = permanent ban, reviewed during platform-hours. - Activity-based bans. Pursuing compensated arrangements through any channel — including off-platform after a date — is the same category of violation. We act on patterns and credible reports.

This rule is absolute. We will never become an escort marketplace.

4. Bios and content

4.1 Bio length

Maximum 240 characters. Short, honest, useful.

4.2 No private contact information

Bios are screened pre-publish for phone numbers, email addresses, social handles, addresses, and "come over" invites. The screen runs on every edit, not just first listing. Any of these = the bio is held or rejected.

4.3 No solicitation language

Same enforcement as Section 3. Every edit, not just first publish.

4.4 Photos

You can add up to six photos to your profile. You arrange the order yourself; the first one is your main photo. They should be real, recent, recognizable photos of you.

Photos that are blocked at upload (or trigger a ban on report): - Photos of someone other than you - Photos containing other recognizable people - Photos containing minors, including your own children — this is non-negotiable, no exceptions, no edge cases - Heavily filtered photos that materially change your appearance - AI-generated, deepfake, or composite images - Sexual content, nudity, or suggestive poses - Photos taken more than 12 months ago

4.5 No discriminatory language

Bios describe you and what you're hoping for. They cannot broadcast exclusion of protected groups (race, ethnicity, religion, disability, sexual orientation, gender identity, etc.).

Saying what you are looking for is fine. Listing groups you "don't want to see" is not.

4.6 No screenshots posted publicly. No doxxing.

Posting screenshots of someone else's bio, listing, or asks anywhere public — your social media, a group chat that's accessed by people not in the conversation, an article — violates the trust premise of the platform. Confirmed cases result in account termination plus possible legal action.

5. Listings and expiry

5.1 Listings run 24 hours, then expire

Every listing runs for 24 hours from the moment you post it, then expires automatically. There's no carry-over and no auto-renewal — the page stays "people who are actually free right now," never a graveyard of half-old listings.

5.2 One listing at a time

You can hold one active listing across the whole platform. You can change cities between listings, but you can't appear in two cities at once.

5.3 What a listing buys you

A listing puts you on the page for 24 hours — that's the placement, not a promise that anyone will reach out. We can't guarantee asks or a date, so a listing that has run isn't refundable just because it was quiet.

• No asks? That isn't something we control, and it isn't refunded. The listing did its job by going live.
• Pulled it down early? Nothing comes back — you chose to post and chose to take it down.

If something went wrong on our end — a double charge, or a charge for a listing that never went live — email hello@thedatepost.com and we'll fix it. Any remedy we give is a free listing credit toward a future post, not cash, except where the law says otherwise.

5.4 One city per listing

Today's city, not your home city. The picker shows what's live where you are; you list for the city you'll actually be in.

5A. Ticker posts

The ticker is separate from dating listings and the Day Pass. A ticker post is a short public message ($6.99, 1–200 characters) shown in a city for 24 hours, in one of three kinds: event, classified, or special. The same content rules apply: no solicitation or compensated arrangements (Section 3), no contact information or private-location invites, no content involving minors, and no impersonation. Every ticker post is reviewed before it goes live; a post that fails review is rejected and you are not charged. Businesses may post as a venue without an account by giving a venue name and a contact email — you must be authorized to post for that venue, and posting in the name of a business you do not represent is a violation. A ticker post is its own one-time $6.99 purchase; it is not a paid boost of your dating visibility, and it does not open or use a Day Pass.

6. Asking, accepting, declining

6.1 Free to browse; a Day Pass to act

Browsing is free. Posting a listing or sending an ask opens a $6.99 Day Pass — 24 hours during which you can post a listing and ask people out (each person once). The $6.99 is charged once, when the pass opens; there's no separate per-ask charge.

6.2 Undo windows

Fingers slip. Undo windows on the irreversible actions give you a few seconds to take back an ask, an accept, or a decline right after you tap.

6.3 No in-app messaging

The Date Post is not a chat platform — asks, accepts, and declines are the entire vocabulary inside the app. When a date is confirmed, we share the phone and/or email each of you added to your profile, and that's where the platform hands off: you arrange the time and place directly, and we recommend meeting in public.

7. Acceptance is binding (briefly)

When you accept a date, you're committing to show up. Not unbreakably — things genuinely come up — but the platform treats acceptance as a real commitment, not a "maybe."

If something does come up: cancel through the app, not by ghosting. A cancellation within four hours of the meet time may be reported as a no-show by the other party.

8. No-shows and strikes

Either party can report a no-show — report it as soon as it happens. The reported person can admit it in the app; otherwise our team reviews the report.

• Confirmed no-show → the asker is made whole with a free Day Pass; the no-shower gets a strike.
• A strike stays on the account for up to 12 months.
• Three active strikes = no posting or asking until the count falls below three.
• False reports are also reviewed and penalised.

9. Money

9.1 One flat $6.99 Day Pass

$6.99 opens a 24-hour Day Pass — the same price in every city, every time. There is no premium tier, no boost, no "see who asked you" upcharge. One pass covers everything you do in those 24 hours: post a listing and ask people out (each person once).

9.2 What your fee buys

See Section 5.3. A listing buys placement and a Day Pass buys 24 hours of access — neither is a guaranteed response or date, and neither is refunded for a quiet result or an early pull.

9.3 No surprise charges

We will not auto-renew listings. We will not silently add features that charge. Anything that costs money requires a deliberate, paid action by you.

10. After the date

The Date Post hands off when the date starts. We don't track what happened, we don't ask you to rate each other, and we don't broker a second date.

If you both want to see each other again: list again, and ask. The $6.99 friction is intentional — it filters for genuine interest.

If something went wrong: report it (Section 1.3). If you'd just like to not see that person again: block them (Section 1.3 again).

There is no public review system. Reviews and stars convert dating into a reputation game; we want it to stay a series of one-night encounters that may or may not become more.

11. Data and privacy

The full disclosure is in our Privacy Policy. The short version:

• We keep what we need to run the platform: your verified ID and selfie, your bio and listings, your asks, your transaction history, the bare minimum log data for fraud and abuse handling.
• We do not sell your data. Not to advertisers, not to brokers, not to third-party "matching" services.
• Account deletion is a real option. When you delete, your account, bio, photo, and history are removed. Audit-relevant records (no-show reports, ban records) are retained where law allows so banned users can't return.

12. Enforcement, in plain terms

Most violations result in one of: a warning, a strike, a temporary freeze, or a permanent ban. Severity depends on what happened, on patterns, and on the actual harm involved.

• Warnings → educational. We tell you what tripped, give you a chance to fix it.
• Strikes → recorded, and stay on the account for up to 12 months. Three active strikes restrict posting and asking until the count falls below three.
• Freezes → temporary, while we investigate. You'll be notified.
• Permanent bans → reserved for safety violations, fraud, sex work / solicitation, impersonation, photos involving minors, doxxing, and attempts to evade prior bans.

We don't require court-of-law evidence. Moderator judgement applies.

If you think a decision was wrong, email support@thedatepost.com with the relevant details. Senior moderators review appeals.

A note on these rules

These rules will change. Dating culture, fraud patterns, and the platform's own scale will all push them. When we update them, we'll notify you in-app and post a changelog with the prior version. Material changes (the kind that affect what you can do, not just how we phrase it) get explicit re-acceptance at next sign-in.

If you have a suggestion for these rules, email hello@thedatepost.com. The most useful feedback we get usually comes from users telling us a specific thing went sideways and a rule should have caught it.

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